Curly hair.
I have naturally curly hair and in the first lockdown of 2020, I felt inspired to learn how to take better care of it. At the start, I figured I’d buy some pricier products, maybe a new brush.
I was a fool.
One YouTube search in, I realized I knew nothing.
Products, washing techniques, strategic routines, gadgets to diffuse, wrap and protect.
What was this coconut-scented world I just stepped into?
Like most things I fall in fascination about, I became completely consumed. I ate up all the information I could find on encouraging my curl, minimizing frizz, and bringing health back to my locks. I watched tutorials, followed curly YouTubers that taught me 99% of what I know now, and experimented on my own head for months.
I referred to this discovery process as: “I’m learning how to be kinder to my hair.”
It’s been a period of time I heavily invested in really understanding what my natural hair needed and doing the work to pinpoint what products and techniques would give it that.
And I’m still in the process of discovering.
The start of the journey was time-consuming and expensive. I gambled on products that in one use proved were terrible for me. It was exhausting to experiment over and over and I considered on more than one occasion if I should throw in the towel (no pun intended).
But it became too significant of an experience to give up on the process.
No one ever taught me how to take care of my curls. Learning my unique hair for myself felt empowering and self-validating. I was honoring myself by learning how to use my hair as a mode of self-expression. I learned to style it in the way I wanted. I learned to care for it in the way it loved.
At one point in time, I would’ve looked at my hair routine today and scoffed. I would’ve called it high-maintenance, not worth it, and self-indulgent. And while it would’ve been easier to just go on with my Suave 2 in 1, I decided I was worth taking the time to learn my hair, be kind to my hair, and ultimately, really enjoy my hair.